What is a relationship? A relationship is a sort of
association or connection between two people. Or let us say it means being
related by blood, mind, determination and marriage.
Relationships are tricky things, sometimes they are
difficult to understand and navigate, that is, to know where it is going to.
You can be in one for too long before realizing it’s not right. Sometimes you
get so comfortable with unhappiness that you forget what happiness is, or don’t
feel like you can do even better than what you used to do. But when you are in
the right relationship, everything is different. The sun shines brighter, your
smiles are bigger, happiness becomes your food, making each other happy will not
be a burden and everything will fall in places.
Here are 7 tips to you need to know if you are in the right
relationship;
1.
Doing things you both enjoy;
It is great to do what he likes and to also
do what she likes. But the best thing is to find out what you both like and do
them together. Doing what each other likes makes both of you happy, and doing
what you both like together brings a greater joy. God created us and created in
us passions which can be different but there is a common thing which both partner
have passion for and this is one of the thing that relates you together.
Relationship does not end at the juncture of agreement it rather starts at that
point. The love in a relationship is not the same like the love you have for
each other before, but it grows doing what you like in common.
2.
Productive fights;
When you are in the right relationship,
fighting is never about winning and not even about getting your point across. A
productive fight is about, understanding the other person, finding common ground,
compromising, and respecting each other throughout the process. If you end a
fight feeling like you won is wrong. Fighting in a right relationship does not
lead to the threat of breaking up. It is majorly to correct few mistakes which
will eventually bring the best out of it.
3.
You share your friends together;
Some of my friends are in relationships
where they only have couple friends. Others only have their own sets of
friends. When you are in the right relationship, you find balance between your
social circle, your partner’s, and your shared circle. Missing any of those
three elements may be a sign of concern.
4.
You maintain self-identity;
You will be happy being you and your
partner feels the same way. And you even tend to appreciate each other more for
maintaining your self-identity. In a right relationship both partner are
encouraged and nurtured to continuously improve their “self”. You might
probably not like her in the first place if he/she is not him/her-self. You
have to encourage each other to maintain self-identity.
5.
You share a passion for your future together;
This is very important in a
relationship. I’ve met some people who says, they are not interested in
settling down with their partner, what is the point of dating? In a right
relationship, both of you thinks of settling down together and tends to walk
with the mind and plan your future together. You met a guy or a girl who is
never planning of settling down, you might probably be walking in the wrong
path.
6.
Attraction of mind, body and spirit;
Is normal you are attracted to each other.
That attraction is probably the first thing that motivated the pursuit of a
relationship. But are you attracted to his/her mind? Are you attracted to her
spirit? Is he/she the kind of person you could have conversations with years
from now when you are both old and wrinkly? Is he/she the kind of person whose
joy will shine through when her face shows her age? You are in the right
relationship when you are excited about the late night conversations as you are
about what happens between the sheets.
7.
Sharing financial goals;
Finances break up even the best of
relationships. It’s a good start to share ideas about financial goals, how much
income you require to be happy and not stressed, business you would love to do
and will not require much stress. Financial stability helps a relationship to
grow. There are things you need to do with money to make him/her happy. In a
right relationship, your partner should not expect more than you can do
financially. For example, you income is #50,000 in a month and she is telling
you to buy her the latest iPhone which you cannot afford at that moment. In a
right relationship, your partner helps you in saving not in lavishing.
