The
happiest, most satisfying relationships rest on a foundation of implicit trust.
If you want your relationship to be all it can be, both of you must learn how
to create this kind of trust. Most couples only think of trust in terms of
being sexually faithful, though essential, there’s more to it than just that.
Keep your routine. A lot of people believe that mixing things up all the time
makes a great relationship. In other words, he or she is always planning
something new to surprise the other. Although surprises are nice from time to
time, stability and uniformity are far more important in a relationship.
Uniformity sounds boring, but you need to be predictable to make things work in
the long run. Predictability builds trust.
Be reliable. Trust is just another way of saying you can rely on
someone. You trust your partner to do certain things no matter what at all
times. This trust builds security in a relationship. Make sure your partner can
count on you.
- If you say you’re going to be home by 5 p.m., then make sure you are or at least let the other person know if something else comes up. The most important factor here is consistency. If 4 out of 5 times, you never bother calling and just come home as late as you want, then that’s a strong indicator that your needs matter more to you than your partner. A happy, successful relationship is when both parties make an effort at keeping up their end of the bargain.
Mean what you say. Your partner can read your face better than anyone else. If
you are lying or trying to hide some true feeling by not quite saying all that
is on your mind, he or she will be able to tell. The person might even think
you’re cheating. When the person knows he or she can trust whatever comes out
of your mouth without hesitation, then you are building an unshakable bond.
Tell the truth.
Don't keep anything hidden, nothing should be privileged from the other. You
have to know that sooner or later all things come to light, and the
consequences of not being completely truthful will kill the trust and ruin your
relationship.
Share how you really feel. Too many people never let their partners know what they
need. Don't let your partner wonder, or try to guess what he or she should do
for you. It is essential this happens with both partners. If only one partner
is being catered to by the other, there is a chance one will feel smothered or
the other might feel neglected. Either scenario is not good.
Say no sometimes. It’s okay to listen to your partner’s needs and try to
fulfill them, but sometimes it's just as valuable to say no. You can't do
everything all the time, and you will actually earn some respect when you
refuse to do something once in a while. Taking a stand, and imposing your own
will can actually enhance the trust between you.
