Know that, sometimes, love fades
naturally. Not all love can last. Whether it is
because you are fighting more often than usual, life moves you apart, or your
interests slowly drift away, some couples fall out of love. The spark cannot
stay alive always, and though it hurts to break off a loving relationship,
sometimes it is for the best.
Know that you should want to spend
time together, not feel obligated. Love is not an obligation. You should want to willingly
spend free time with someone you love, and if you do not you need to examine
why things are different now. Do you just need some time alone, or is there a
more serious issue in your relationship?
- Everyone has times they hope to be alone, but this is different from constantly ignoring or regretting the time with the one you love.
- You should never feel exhausted or sad after spending time together.
Know that making plans without
thinking about your partner is an early sign that you are losing love. This is not about planning what do to for lunch, but bigger
life goals. If you begin prioritizing your life without thinking about where
your partner fits into the picture, you've lost the feelings of commitment
necessarily to stay in love. Being in love with someone means they are on your
mind and a part of your foreseeable future.
Notice if signs of intimacy or
affection have faded. This is
true of all love, romantic and otherwise. If you no longer want to touch, tell
each other what you enjoy about each other, be near each other, or have a
conversation, then something is up. Again, these things are eas when you are in
love, but can feel strained or even embarrassing when your love fades.
End a relationship if you don't feel
like you love someone anymore.
It is often as simple as asking yourself, "Do I feel in love
anymore?" You might not be able to point to a reason or flaw that caused
your to fall out of love, but this is an unfortunate fact of life. People grow
and change, and sometimes they grow apart. While you may still like the person,
the love may be gone, and it is unlikely to come back once it has faded.
- It may be hard to break-up with someone, but trying to fake or force your love will only lead to more pain down the road.
